Growing up I always thought my life would follow “the plan”. You know, go to college, get a career, find that amazing guy, get married and live in a beautiful home with a picket fence in the burbs. Well, at 33-years old, that is not my life, not my plan…
If I could tell my younger self one thing, it would be to trust your gut.
Some people are going to hurt you, some people are going to lie to you, some people are going to disappoint you – and you may hurt some people along the way. When someone shows you their true colors, believe them. You cannot change someone, no matter how much you try, so you have to just go forward and move on. Respect yourself! If you allow things to happen, you are accepting the behaviors that come before you. Don’t ever knock yourself down trying to lift someone else up. It’s not worth it. As the saying goes, “You can’t teach a dog new tricks.” This goes for so many parts of life.
Learn to say NO! Say NO to things that you don’t want to do. Say NO the people who won’t be in your corner through the good times, and most importantly the bad. Say NO to things that don’t bring you joy and happiness in your life. Just like Spring Cleaning, it’s OK to do a “friend cleanse” every once in awhile. Take out the people in your life that cause you negativity, stress and frustration. You do not need the fake people in your life. Above all, do not ever change who you are for someone else. Do not disappoint your own character in order to follow the group. Be your own group with the people that matter, the people that love and care about you.
Enjoy life! Take everything in! Go on trips with your friends, family and loved ones. Traveling is the best way to learn about life and learn about yourself. Study abroad! Don’t listen to negative people that threaten the relationship when things get difficult. Stand up for yourself and put yourself first! Become independent. Be confident in the choices that you make, knowing that every experience is a chance to change, learn and grow.
Try out new things! Learn a new hobby, try new activities, taste new restaurants, learn new styles, listen to new music, and meet new people! Nothing should ever be stagnant in your twenties. Enjoy those years; they are precious! Learn about who you are and who you want to be. Discover you! In your thirties, you find that you are finally becoming more comfortable in your own skin. You may even know what you want exactly from life. During this journey, you maybe have had a few ups and downs, also some learning experiences, you now know you are doing, and what you were placed here to do.
Family is everything! Surround yourself with family and close friends. They are the people that matter most. They will be with you throughout the good times and the bad. They are the people that want to see you succeed and are the most motivating. Treasure them. So what would I really say to my younger self? Cherish the memories of growing, learning, and experiences. Take disappointments and learn from them, learn to be humble. Enjoy life and travel! See the world. Stand up for yourself and never, ever put yourself or others down.